Monday, December 8, 2008

A Daily Schedule for Stay-at-Home Moms

After you complete the Weekly Work Schedule, it's time to move on to your Daily Schedule.

I really like having a schedule, because it gives structure to my day. My first few months as a stay-at-home mother were incredibly frustrating, because I was accustomed to working in an office, with a structured routine and defined expectations. I'm a person who needs order and routine, and stay-at-home motherhood offers neither. The work has no definitive beginning or end, and there is no boss to tell you what to do and when. When there is no schedule or plan, it's very easy to become unmotivated and undisciplined. My day goes so much better when I don't spend it flitting from task to task, or wandering aimlessly trying to decide what I should do next. Aside from meal, nap and bedtimes, I don't have a schedule on weekends. Weekends are generally more relaxed and flexible, and we occasionally go shopping or on family outings.

I don't follow my schedule to the minute, and neither should you. If you attempt to do this, you will drive yourself completely crazy with frustration! Instead, look at your schedule as a guide, a rough outline of how you'd like your day to go. Remember that you can’t predict what’s going to happen every day, especially with young kids. There will be days (heck, even weeks) when your schedule will completely go out the window, and that's OK! Just do the best you can, and remember that time management requires flexibility too.

It's easy to set up your daily schedule in an Excel spreadsheet, with your waking hours in a vertical column, broken down by half hour. To get started, sit down and examine your day. Make a list of all the things you need to do, from taking a shower to cooking supper. When you begin to write things into your schedule, start with things that have specific start times, like wake-up time, naps, meals, school, activities and bedtimes.

Next, move on to things that don’t have specific start times, but that you have to get done. When finding blocks of time to fit them in, think about the time of day. For example, it's best to schedule work requiring concentration during nap time or after bedtime if you have young children. I know this from experience.

Don't forget to schedule time to just play with your kids. After all, they are the reason you stay home, right? Also, remember to give yourself a break! If the law mandates that employees get two 15-minute coffee breaks for every 8 hours of work, then surely you're entitled too. Especially since you work way more than 8 hours each day!

My School Year Daily Schedule looks like this:

7:00 AM: Up. Change and dress Cakes. Bee dresses herself. Make breakfast for girls. Pack Bee's lunch.

7:45 AM: Get dressed. Everyone gets hair and teeth brushed.

8:15 AM: Bee to school.

8:30 AM: Eat breakfast. Write blog post for the day.

9:30 AM: Plan supper menu. Get food out of freezer to defrost, or start meal in slow cooker.

10:00 AM: Start one load of laundry.

10:15 AM: Daily cleaning chores and lunch prep.

11:30 AM: Eat. Lunch clean-up.

12:15 PM: Cakesie-nap routine (rock, read books)

12:30 PM: Cakesie-nap. Bible study and quiet time with God.

1:00 PM: Walk on treadmill 20 minutes. 10 minutes of weights. (I'm working on this. Honest).

1:30 PM: Shower and rest.

2:00 PM: Fold and put away clean laundry. Play time with Cakesie.

3:15 PM: Pick Bee up from school.

3:30 PM: Girls-snack time. Supper prep.

4:00 PM: Girls-free play time together. Work on daily cleaning chores and finish supper prep.

5:15 PM: Eat supper (we eat early because Cakesie goes to bed by 7:30 PM)

5:45 PM: Supper clean-up.

6:15 PM: Kid baths, pajamas & teeth brushing

7:00 PM: Cakesie-bedtime routine (rock, read books, prayers). Bee-daily chores (tidy bedroom and playroom, put away any toys in living room).

7:15 PM: Cakesie in bed. Bee-free play time.

8:15 PM: Bee-bedtime routine (choose next day's clothes, read, prayers, snuggle and tuck in).

8:30 PM: Bee in bed. Straighten up.

9:00 PM: Time with my husband (snuggle on couch, watch TV or movie, talk).

10:30 PM: Bedtime routine (wash and moisturize face, brush teeth and hair, floss, change into PJs). Read.

11:00 PM: Lights out.

After you set up your schedule, give it a trial run for a few weeks. You may find that it's just not working for you, and needs modification. During my trial run, I left my HMG open to the schedule page, and made notes on it as I went about my day. This gave me a realistic picture of how the day actually progressed, and I could adjust the schedule to suit my needs better. My schedule is a work in progress, always changing, but that's how life is too.

11 comments:

Renata said...

You have convinced me that I need to make a schedule - I seem to be constantly running around & never getting everything done!! Thanks for your blog - it is definitely one of my favourites!
Renata:)

Heather said...

Thanks Renata. Your blog is one of my favorites too!

Good luck with your schedule. Let me know how it goes.

Renee said...

So I absolutely love your schedule. I have one very similar to it. My question is a little different. I have a 15 month old daughter. What does your 18 month old do all day when she's awake? Other than when she's eating or taking her 2 hour nap, I find myself wondering what she should do. She's pretty lively and doesn't sit still to read a book for very long. So I guess my question is just, what should HER schedule look like and how does that fit into my schedule? I can't be outside with her if I'm inside doing chores, etc.

Heather said...

Hi Renee,

I'll try to address your questions in tomorrow's post, in case other readers are wondering the same thing!

Welcome!

lovefrom1stbite said...

Heather, I really enjoyed reading your post (How moms take showers) LOL
It was hilarious..Took the tour of your house I like it especially the kitchen & the living room. I also liked the fact that you have a schedule it's really important especially for moms! It's been a while I didn't enjoy a blog like I did today.

A food blogger next door :)

Jess said...

I cannot begin to tell you how helpful the Daily Schedule has been. When I began reading your blog in June I was feeling lost and so unproductive as a new mommy of a 3 month old. I worked on this first and everything else fell into place (weekly work schedule, daily tasks, zone cleaning etc). It gave me pieces of time to get things done instead of looking at nap time thinking "I have 12 things on my list to do in the next hour!!!!!!!!!" I used to get my housework done at random or whenever someone was coming over. YIKES!!!! (Throwing everything into a hidden place) The schedule is constantly being reworked but it is so easy to hand over to my mom who keeps Wook frequently for me. I love knowing what's coming next. Don't get me wrong, there are days when the schedule is completely out the window. It just makes for a happier baby, mother, and wife. My husband is amazed at all I get done now (some days) and how my attitude towards housework has changed since I stopped working outside of the home and got my act together. Heather, God has given you a gift here! Thank you for listening to Him and sharing it with us!

The Tucci Family said...

Dear Heather,

I googled a topic and came across your blog. Since I'm new to this whole thing, I'm wondering how you got your blog to look this elaborate. The tools available on blogger look seem limited. Any advice on photo uploads, cool templates, etc? I like the way you did your header!! Thanks and God bless. Cheryl T. tuccitoo@gmail.com

The Mad White Woman said...

Heather, I don't know how I could have missed this. I've been subscribed to your blog for a little while now and just today came across the schedule. I just finished writing a post about NEEDING a schedule! I hate feeling like I did nothing all day but stare at the computer, but I want "my" time while the boys are at school and still be able to get done all that needs to get done around the house you know? Thanks for these helpful hints. I'm going to give it a shot.

tchambers315 said...

I truly believe God sent me to your site!!! My life is in total chaise! I am a stay at home mom of a 2 year old and a 4 year old and I spend my entire day running in circles! I just found your schedules and I am in the process of starting one for myself and my family. I thank you so much for sharing your life and ideas, you ARE a genius my friend!!!!

Danielle said...

wow, you only have about 10 minutes of free time a day after you shower. How is this a do-able schedule?

karen mutale said...

Hellow Heather,I just want to congratulate you on your wonderful blog.I googled on scheduling and thats how I came across your blog. Iám a christian wife and mom to 5 beautiful children, between the ages of 1 to 9.You can imagine how difficult it is to have anything done. Then I come across your blog, It's a life saver.I have started making my own schedule using your example[daily tasks,weekly schedule,monthly].Your blog covers almost every area of family life.You've really helped me in many areas I can't even begin to tell you.I live in Botswana,but believe me women the world over face the same challenges. You are helping women all over the world.Thanks again and OH congratulations on your new baby boy.I have three.

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