Comments on Want What You Have: Left Out

Poor thing. If it's any consolation, when my daug...

2009-07-21T04:15:33.967-05:00

Poor thing. If it's any consolation, when my daughter sees your blog she starts shouting, "Cakes, Cakes!" and gets very excited.

Poor Cakes - I'm sure when she's old enough she'll...

2009-07-12T06:02:55.832-05:00

Poor Cakes - I'm sure when she's old enough she'll get the same things Bee's getting now - it is hard being younger ( I know Ellie always thought she should do exactly what Zai did).
Cakes is going to love being a big sister - I can imagine she'll love being a big helper!!!
You're doing a fantastic job!!

Middle child, here. Yes, many times I was too old...

2009-07-10T23:32:52.291-05:00

Middle child, here. Yes, many times I was too old to do the cutsie things my little sister was doing and too young to do the older things my brother was doing. But I did learn to shine at my own things :)

Being a middle child, I tend to make sure my own middle child is not overlooked.

As I got to the end of the third pregnancy, I would tell the middle one he was gonna be a BIG brother and he would have to help take care of his little sister because she was gonna be so tiny. He loved it! He could not wait to feed her a bottle. I still tear up when I look at that picture.. he's all of 2 1/2.. proud as you please, feeding his baby sister a bottle. His little feet are overlapping and he has a smile so big his eyes are squinting. Thanks for the memories. :)

I popped on your blog to read it and my computer h...

2009-07-10T22:53:59.669-05:00

I popped on your blog to read it and my computer has been sitting open to your blog for like two hours, lol! Seriously!

I am finally able to get back on the computer.

My two are four years apart and the younger was always frustrated at the freedom of his older brother, just like Cakes.

My oldest has also had lots of compliments over the years due to talents and achievements (4.0 in school and at college, sings and plays on the worship team, took first in the nation in a competition, etc.) and people always used to come up to me and say "I'll bet you are so proud of him" right in front of my younger son.

And I'd say "I am. I am very proud of both my children" and they'd be like "Oh! Oh, of course you are!" LOL!

Poor thing! My son is almost 2 and all he wants t...

2009-07-10T22:42:35.673-05:00

Poor thing! My son is almost 2 and all he wants to do is be with his brother too, so I kind of understand. I think it will only get worse in the next few years.

I have a feeling that Cakes will be anything but y...

2009-07-10T18:56:28.951-05:00

I have a feeling that Cakes will be anything but yesterday's news. Personalities like her's don't come along every day. And I mean that in the famous way, not the infamous way.

You will be a great mama to three. Love doesn't run out.

Remember, God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called.

Poor Cakes. If Pat turns out to be a girl, I suppo...

2009-07-10T13:38:24.471-05:00

Poor Cakes. If Pat turns out to be a girl, I suppose she'll find herself in the position of Jan in the Brady Bunch. At least once Pat arrives, she will be bigger than someone and able to do things that the baby can't do.

Luckily, Cakes has a personality that will not all...

2009-07-10T13:31:19.731-05:00

Luckily, Cakes has a personality that will not allow her to slip through the cracks. She WILL make her presence known.

I have a hard time with my younger also while trying to let the olders have their own time without the tag-a-long. It makes for some tough days some times.

:( I feel your pain. My boys are 4 yrs apart and E...

2009-07-10T12:33:28.713-05:00

:( I feel your pain.
My boys are 4 yrs apart and Emerson (4) idolizes Foster (8) like Cakes does Bee. We have the same battles... Foster is really good about including his brother but sometimes he needs to hang with his 'big boy' buddies. We make a point to do things that Foster is too big for and Emerson is just right for. There are a few playgrounds around designed for the younger kiddos and Emerson loves to point out all the things Foster is TOO BIG for but he can do. I also have a few games that are "only for 4 yr olds" and Foster plays along and makes a big show of how he wishes he was still young enough to play that super fun game (currently it's Don't Spill The Beans).

Don't worry about Cakes. She knows she's loved & adored. Tell her everyday that she's the BEST Cakes in the whole world.

Awww :( I don't see how she gets passed up, every...

2009-07-10T12:31:53.418-05:00

Awww :( I don't see how she gets passed up, every time I see her cute pics (including these) I always think to myself, "What a beautiful, little face!"
Cakes is a doll! She's going to be a fun little girl and have friends and light up a room! She'll bloom in her own time!

Oh PS--I also loved the "It's not easy being Cakes...

2009-07-10T12:29:38.128-05:00

Oh PS--I also loved the "It's not easy being Cakes"

I think that every parent goes through this! I hav...

2009-07-10T12:29:08.381-05:00

I think that every parent goes through this! I have oodles of pictures of my daughter, but only a handful of pictures of my son. He is also overlooked by our relatives because my daughter is absolutely adored by them and treated accordingly. So sad because my son is every bit as loveable and fun as my daughter. They just have different personatilties, as expected! Yes, I don't know what the answer is, but I also find myself trying to be "fair" to both of them by taking turns having mommy time or daddy time. Oh, and I was a middle child and think that I have grown immensely from it. Cakes will be just fine :-)

Oh my----With a cute little faces like Cakes, how ...

2009-07-10T12:28:05.738-05:00

Oh my----With a cute little faces like Cakes, how could anyone pass her by. Not that Bee isn's lovely too, I have seen the older ones get passed by for the "little kid".

I do agree with you tho. I have great nephews that feel the same way, after the joy of #1--what is 2 and 3--but then came along a "GIRL" and she was then again the one who got the attention.

Too bad for all those "middle" children who seem to be forgotten and thank God for all those mommies that try to treat them all fairly--my niece tries (and does a pretty fair job) to treat them all the same.

Oh poor thing! Cute post:) I feel the same way fo...

2009-07-10T12:16:14.483-05:00

Oh poor thing! Cute post:) I feel the same way for my Kaytee, she just turned two and it breaks her heart when Taylor goes to school, her fab fours group, swimming lessons, so and so on. But it sounds like Cakes is alot like Kaytee - strong willed and outgoing - I dont think they'll have a problem getting forgotten for too much longer! You have the CUTEST girls Heather! Cant wait to hear what the next will be!! Did you say you're finding out? I HOPE!

We've had a very similar experience with our secon...

2009-07-10T12:10:25.070-05:00

We've had a very similar experience with our second child. The 'gifts and visitors' area of the 2 baby books pretty much tells it all. Even the grandparents show much more attention to our older child. He has always been a much calmer kid who would rather be with the adults. I'm just waiting to see how God is going to use this personality in her life, even if it takes a while.